Do's and Dont's for guys going on a date

Well, are you one of those guys who went out with the perfect woman and thought everything was going well but there was no second date? or one of those who are ready to go on a date this weekend? If yes then you should probably read this.

-Asking out 

There are no rules on how you ask a girl out. If you are less confident talking in person,a simple text/ a phone call would do.

Do not get mad on the girl if she says she has plans.She is probably telling the truth.But if she says it twice,back off, she is not interested to go out.She will get mad on you,if you keep on insisting.That is called being desperate.

Do not blame her that you have to plan dates every time. Generally girls do not ask out. So do it!!

-Choosing the place

Don't ask her to choose place. You asked her out, you have to decide where to take her. No girl likes to go with a confused man with no plans.

If you take her to a familiar place where she has been 1000 times you are doing nothing innovative about it.

Don't plan really romantic dates if its a casual friendship. This means you cannot bring a music band, put a ring in her drink or ask her to be the mother of your children.You will spook her off.

Don't take her to a roadside chaatwala even if he is the best in town. Choose a place with a good ambiance, less crowd, moderately costly(too much lavish looks like you are trying to show off and too less looks like you have no choice or class).

Don't say the place is a surprise, she will probably carry a pepper spray in that case. If you choose a really familiar place she probably has been there nothing special for her.If you still want to keep the place unknown tell her which area in town.

 Don't take her to you home.She is not your study buddy.

If you are quite new to each other and you want to keep conversation short then a movie would do. Ask her if she wants to see XYZ movie. If she takes the name of movie ABC instead of XYZ say yes.Don't fight!The movie is not important here.Don't forget your goal.

If you want to talk,an elegant restaurant would do where waiters don't keep on coming for an order every moment.

Don't choose too crowded or too deserted place. The girl would be more distracted by the surrounding than even listen to you.

Ask her if she is a vegetarian or not and choose the place appropriately.Even if she drinks don't take her to a place where people drink. You don't want to take care of a drunken woman nor do you want to get drunk neither do you want to be a part of a drunken brawl.

-Taking time

After you decide the venue ,you decide the time. Afternoon is the worst time. Never choose it.No one wants to sweat under the sun with you. Don't ask on dinner at first if you do not share that comfort level.Go for lunch or breakfast.

If a woman says 5.00 assume she could get half an hour late. Don't get mad if she gets late.Its the way women are designed.

Do not expect her to remind you of the date.But confirm it hours before the date.You probably don't want to get stood up just because she forgot about you.

-Offering a lift

Decide on a common pick up spot near her house not near yours.

Even if she has a vehicle offer to pick her up.Don't insist if she says no. Don't offer a lift if you travel by public transport or cycle.

 -Dressing up

Footwear: Do not wear chappals,sandals,sport shoes or your bathroom slippers if its a restaurant/movie. Sincerely wear black leather(polished) shoes.If its raining use your head and skip the leather part.Mostly dress for the place.If its a beach,slippers would do. If its a sports date,wear sport shoes.

Perfume:Wear a simple perfume. Should not be too nausea tic or too pungent or strong. You don't want her to develop an allergy to your perfume.Just mild. Do not smell sweat.If you know you will sweat use appropriate deo.

Breath:Eat a mint.If you have bad breath problems or even if you don't,eat a mint.Even if you are not going to kiss.No one wants to know what do you ate before.

Clothes: Wear decent,clean clothes.Don't wear T-shirts with crazy/offensive quotes.Formals will do.Don't try something unusual that doesn't suit your personality.Don't wear plus sized shirts or baggy jeans.Don't wear shirts that are too tight even if you think you have got a chiseled body.Keep things to her imagination.A white or a black plain shirt are preferred.Don't go for huge horizontal striped shirt.Don't wear transparent or fluorescent colored,shiny or too bright shirts.Don't do pea-cocking on a date.She is already exclusively seeing you.Keep the top most one/two buttons of your shirt open so the shirt doesn't choke you.Tuck the shirt in neatly.No short shirts.You can fold the sleeves a bit if the shirt sleeves wrap too much near your wrist.

Hair: Clean washed hair. Don't put too much of oil.Don't try new hairstyles.Strictly no Justin Beiber even if she loves him.

Skin:If you are one of those men who let the dry skin wear off on its own then, believe me no one wants to see your skin flakes flying in the air.Its not romantic.Use a cold cream! And no dry lips too, even excessive Vitamin A inside your body doesn't justify it.

Accessories: Carry a handkerchief.You will probably need it.

Hygiene:Most important.Clean shave.Take a bath.Make sure your nails are clean and cut.No stinky shoes/socks/clothes.Don't ignore this.She would never forgive you if you fail at this.

-On a date

Keep your mobile on silent.Do not overindulge in your mobile.Its really rude even if your mobile is one of the best brands,the girl won't like the second priority.

Avoid picking calls or replying to messages.

Don't keep your accessories on the table unless and until your pockets can't manage them.Don't empty keys,handkerchief,wallet,mobile,chits,money on the table.Keep it in.

Show interest in what she is talking about.

Smile and nod when she is speaking,you want to look interested.Do not stare at her or her assets,you will make her uncomfortable.No one wants a psychopath or a pervert.

Skip staring at other chicks around.No matter how good you think you are in hiding it,she can make it out.

You probably shouldn't put that hand around her if you haven't reached that comfort zone.Don't be too touchy. She will feel uncomfortable and violated.

Pulling out her chair or opening the door for her are not old ways. It just shows you are a gentleman. No harm in being the nice guy.

Don't fight.Avoid topics where you will end up hitting each other.Sometimes its better to lose a fight just so to end the discussion.Cater to her ego.

Don't tell her about your past girlfriends or crushes. No one is interested. If she asks,skip the details.She wants to know but don't want you to speak of it as anything of any importance.

Don't ask too much personal questions and don't insist if she is not comfortable.She will eventually tell you all the secrets.Just not today.

PAY THE BILL!! She might ask to split or offer to pay but pay the bill if its the first date.You actually tell a woman you care by paying the bill.Don't just sit when the bill arrives but pay it right-way without even hoping or waiting for her to ask to split. She will insist but ask her to get it next time.

Do not say you had your food or you will have food when you go home.Never keep a woman hungry or thirsty. Order your own food or just order what she has ordered.Don't ask her to order for you,she is not your mom.

Do not criticize her order.If fries are unhealthy and she eats them,let her.She will work out,don't be her mom. If you are the one who loves fries,burger,coke and all the junk food in the world just think what message are you are sending across.

 Don't overeat, you don't want to be drowsy.

Don't waste food,it shows you are a careless person who doesn't know how much to order.

Compliment her about her dress.She probably took a lot of time dressing up.Don't be angry if you don't receive a compliment back.DON'T CALL HER FAT.Keep those hurtful comments to yourself.Don't keep on praising her.Stop after a line.Just one line and that's it.

Don't talk about serious issues like marriage or commitment unless,she wants to talk about them.

Do not mourn on how your fate,parents,past affairs has been unfair to you.And how the whole universe has conspired to make things miserable for you.No one is interested.

If you are joking too much and she is trying real hard to smile.She is probably not from your genre of humor. Skip the next 5 jokes. Don't force her to laugh.She will think you are trying too hard to impress.

-Saying a goodbye

Make sure she goes home  safely even if you don't like her.

Offer to ride her home or accompany her. If she says she will be fine, still join her. Its your duty to take care of the lady. She probably is an independent,strong woman to insist.

Every date doesn't end in a kiss so don't force yourself on her. You would end up with a sandal mark on your face than a lipstick mark.

Well that's all for now....HAPPY DATING! :)